We remember the good times ...

Remembering you

2011-10-09T15:18:00.001+08:00

Hi Jeremy,

Don't know you in person but happened to come across a video of you on youtube. I hope that you are well up there.

Yours

3rd Anniversary

2010-11-23T22:28:00.004+08:00

2010.11.23

This day marks the third year without you by our side physically, never have you ever leave our thoughts... our heart... Till today, i still can remember the smiles that you never fail to wear on your face... The jokes you used to tell us in our poly days... The actions you always did in front of us...

It is strange, i must admit, that i think of you whenever i am having half chicken western meal. It will reminds me the incident in Swensen's... what Jocelyn said about you and me... I will be reminded of you whenever i read news about dragonboat or hear people talk about dragonboat. I will be reminded of you when i see people doing silly expression... haha...

On 20th Nov, we went down and pay respect to the guy who had left us while donning national colours. You are still so popular even till today... Fresh flowers can be seen at your 'place'. It is a pity that a few of us were not able to come down due to work commitment or other 'auspicious clashes'. But I am sure you know your position in their heart.

Hope that you are doing well wherever you are... having fun and bring laughters everywhere =)

-signed off, WLiang

Shit still happens

2010-11-19T19:52:00.001+08:00

Hi guys,

A young budding lady like you, a dragonboater like you
just got wipen out by the act of god.....
It felt abit like that room in cambodia....

Hope you guys meet up there. She quite a cheerful and pretty one (Candian Born Chinese to be actual) ;)
Take care and sorry the medals are still sitting at my home.
Will bring it over before turn of the year.

Cheers

SAFSA has grown by leaps & bounds!

2010-10-09T17:18:00.002+08:00

Hi Jeremy, how r u? Whenever I visit yr blog, it makes me happy to know you're still remembered by so many. Its been a few years now, and you may be glad to know that the SAFSA team which you once led has grown by leaps n bounds. Here are them winning the SAFSA Merit Team Award (Mens) for 2010 (recognise Adrian?). Recently, they also made the SAFSA headlines by winning 3 Golds in the CCWC in Macau. Be proud and be at peace. Watch over them always. -WEP

Mariah Carey - Bye Bye

2010-08-08T06:29:00.001+08:00

Put Your Hand Way Up High
You Will Never Say Bye
Lift Your Head To The Sky
'Cause We Will Never Say Bye :)

WE DID IT!

2010-07-19T23:52:00.004+08:00

Hello Mr Da Tou Xiong,

Hope all has been fine for you and the rest up there.
Well, I am bringing this piece of news a week late but again, late is better then never, and i am pretty darn sure that you and company were watching it when it happened. Nonetheless, I would still want to proudly declare this great piece of news to you.

SIM Men has won the Gold medal in IVP and PM Cup in the recently concluded SDBF 2010 on 10th and 11th July. Now, before I continue, don't you go around boasting!

I know that you're watching over us and it's like finally, after five long years and we have finally landed Gold for these two categories and the 'Holy Grail' is finally making its way to our school.

You would be proud to know that we are the current holder for River Regatta 'IVP Men, Open Mixed and Men Open' as well as the current holder of June Race 'IVP Men and PM Cup'. You must be blessing and watching over us. I want you to know that all these success belongs to EVERYONE and not only us.

I believe that our competitors will bounce back even stronger but fret not, for we will continue doing our best and put up a good fight/show for you and everybody out there.

SAFSA did put up a fantastic fight with MBT and though they were edged out by a mere second and you would be proud to know the fact that you were part of both teams at a certain point of your 'rowing career'.

The National Team are doing great as well and i truly believe that it is only a matter of time before they realized the dream of bringing an international Gold medal back home.

Continue blessing SIM, SAFSA, MBT and the National Team for all the success of these teams belong to you and company as well.

Rgds

Epic finishing

2010-07-11T21:23:00.002+08:00

Hi dtx,

I believe your jaw have dropped today.
SIM won PM !!!
For open, it is still between us and MTB . We have lost, but for the you will be proud of them. They are not content for just being second at national level.

We will be going up CCWC. Watch over us and we will try our best again.

Cheers

P.S: Boon san and guys, dun worri. NTU will bounced back even stronger. Singapore will witness it and Who knows this year or next will be the year we bring back an international gold :)

Long time

2010-06-10T18:23:00.002+08:00

Hi,

A lot had happened.

Remember that we often awed by hungary, czech, macau and more. Last year, we finally went to world championship. And we managed to inch off these exact teams during our stint there.

In the past, SAFSA never even won medals of any color when we competed. In 3 weeks time, we will be defending our first national championship for the first time.

We always wanted to represent Singapore for SEA games. Just yesterday, SSC agreed to send us for Asian games.

Since you and guys are up there, look out for us. Support us.
We will and would try our best in achieving what is impossible to us in the past.

Still miss you guys.
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Jeremy

2010-06-09T23:58:00.001+08:00

Hello Jeremy

I hope you are doing great up there, I don't know you, but i'm coming here quite often, just to look, because i thinks its wonderful how much love people can have for just a human, you must have been a great friend, a great human, a wonderful family member.
it makes me glad to see that you have someone who really loves you.

I'm sorry for what happened. rest in peace, Jeremy.

-Theresa

Hello from Denmark.

2010-06-09T23:51:00.002+08:00

Hey Jeremy.
A friend of my showed this blog, and I didn't really know, if I should write or not. But I'm going to do it anyway.. and have written a bit already. I didn't know you, but I hope you are OK up there, lots of thoughts to your family and friends.

Hugs
Cecilie, Denmark.

And to the rest of you: It's making me happy, that so many have posted something, and not a single one of tyou have deleted or changed the password. It's great with some respect.

yeah yeah

2010-03-01T22:20:00.001+08:00

what is this blog used for
i m just somewhere from north africa
and make a galance around and find this lovely blog
so what is it made for
i still comming here from time to other
so i want an answer

My foot-steps

2010-01-24T19:31:00.003+08:00

Hey Jeremy...

We don't know each other. I'm from Malaysia.

I've came across your blog when I was looking at your videos in youtube.

Just feel that.. You are great..

You will always be remembered.

R.I.P.

Kaylie.

2010-01-01T20:15:00.001+08:00

Wishing you a Happy New Year!

AT

How the view?

2009-11-24T11:39:00.002+08:00

Hihi,

da toh xiong,
you must be smiling :)
That SIM secured triple golds and MTB is slightly weaken but they will come back stronger.

and to all (wei zheng, reuben, bucktooth :P, & da toh xiong)
SAFSA have grown to a team that u guys want and proud of. The willingness and passion to fight and pride to be SAFSA. They will be better the next time they represent us again.

Miss you guys

P.S: Dun boast too much Mr. Jeremy

2009-11-23T14:27:00.002+08:00

Two years ago on this day, I was on leave when the news of the incident hit our media. I did not know any of you, and neither am I a dragon boater. I guess it was the same passion for sports and the great comments by your friends that I was captivated by the news. For the last 2 years, I have read and followed the links available on the web to learn more about you and your friends.... what I am trying to say is your life was not in vain, you had definitely left behind your mark on those around you.... including "strangers" like me.

I am sure with the good buddies here keeping you tuned on the happenings here and cheering you on, your life up there must be happier than ever. As a stranger, I send you my best wishes, and thank you for being an inspiration to many of us. Cheers!

AT

You must be watching it as well.

2009-11-23T12:46:00.002+08:00

We did it and you must be watching it from somewhere; watching over us.
Time flies and 2 years went by. Nevertheless, You're always remembered in all our hearts.
We will work on the success achieved and look forward towards Penang 09 and June 2010.
You're missed.

^_^

2009-11-23T01:02:00.002+08:00

Still fresh inside my mind was the time we spend training @ Kallang till late night,
it was thru you that got me into Team SIM, and the trip to Penang was where I finally got my first Men Open Medal, then we went to Padang, Indonesia with Team Safsa.
..
...
....
.....
2009 River Regatta, let me share this great news with you.

Mountbatten was still Inter-CSC Champion, and, SIM is now the current Mens Open, Mixed Open and IVP CHAMPIONS.

Next CNY, I will be heading to Cambodia, that river.

^_^

Our Neighbourhood

2009-10-20T21:01:00.003+08:00

Hi Neighbour,

Finally, the lift upgrading is completed at our neighbourhood, yeah! And the kopitiam just renovated, more food stalls and the best thing is 24 hrs now !

Wanna write something here was because, few days ago, I saw a young chap brought his dog for a walk @ our neighbourhood. Of course, it reminds me of you.

The next thought was ..... Ah, going to be 2 years soon, isn't it?

Update you again

Happy National Day

2009-08-09T00:37:00.002+08:00

Dear friend,

Happy National Day. You've touched people's lives and had been passionate in what you do. I pray for more people like you. God bless your family. You're always remembered :)

Anni (townsville)

Finally,

2009-06-29T02:56:00.002+08:00

hi guys,

we have done it. Long wait, but we have done it. The long eluded gold.
I think u guys will be watching it. SAFSA raced with their heart in mind of those whom contributed selflessly.

That to u guys as well. Thanks Jeremy, Reu & Wei zheng.
We have done it.

Miss u guys

Be with us :)

2009-05-26T12:03:00.002+08:00

Once again we will be embark to macau for competition today.
Be with us.

Brothers forever.

Good News

2009-04-01T23:37:00.002+08:00

hi,

How the view from the top? Good. Think so too.

Managed to see MR500? Hope u did.
The team finally becomes what we hope it will be.
One gold and One sliver.
Will show u guys the medals someday.

Will push them harder.
See us tru'

And sorry for not pushing hard. Will try when my personal stuff settled.

Miss u guys.

View from Heaven

2009-03-04T11:23:00.002+08:00

We'll keep you close as always,
it won't even seem that you've gone.
Cause our hearts in big and small ways,
will keep the love that keeps us strong.

And friends are friends forever,
if the Lord's the Lord of them.
And a friend will not say never,
cause the welcome will not end.
Thought it's hard to let you go,
in the Father's hands we know,
that a lifetime is not too long, to live as friends...

I hope that all is well in heaven bro.

Brothers forever.

Greatest Love,
Alvin (Small Boy)

1st SRR without u

2008-12-03T16:42:00.000+08:00

hihi,

Sorry, wasn't not able bring what was promised.....

Will try harder next season.

As you and reu believes, No matter what the odds. We will fight with all our hearts and soul in hope to overcome the odds.

Miss u guys.

In our minds...In many of our minds

2008-11-24T18:24:00.002+08:00

Jeremy, you remain somewhere special in our minds. We miss your cheerful & friendly personality and your contagious smile. Toi, your supervisor, who happens to be my colleague now, told me today that he dreamt of you last night. I know lots of people miss you too.

joyce with many others @ teamHSA

1st Anniversary

2008-11-22T23:05:00.000+08:00

Dear all,

Seems like the time has come for the 1st anniversary of his departure. The families and friends of all five of them will be gathering at JURONG ENGLISH SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST CHURCH for a memorial service. Friends of jeremy are welcome to join us in remembering him.

Location is.....
JURONG ENGLISH SEVENTH-DAY ADVENTIST CHURCH
90 Jurong East St 13Singapore 609648

How to Get to there:Bus stop at Jurong East Central-Seventhday Adventist Church: 52, 105, 105B, 160, 176, 183, 334, 506, 5NBus stop at Jurong East Central-Before Seventh-day Adventist Church: 52,98, 98M, 105, 160, 176, 183, 334, 506Bus stop at Jurong East Central-Blk 124: 51, 66, 78, 79, 97, 97E, 143, 176, 197, 333, 335Bus stop at Jurong East Central-Blk 134: 51, 66, 66B, 78, 79, 97, 97A, 97B, 97E, 143, 143A, 176, 197, 333, 335MRT Station: From Jurong East MRT Station walk along Jurong East St 13 to the junction with Jurong East Central

map
http://www.streetdirectory.com/asia_travel/travel/travel_id_7863/travel_site_111683/

http://maps.yellowpages.com.sg/maps/scripts/default.asp?1=RadioButton4&postcode=609648

http://www.streetdb.com/singapore-street-directory-BUILDING-p609648-JURONG-EAST-SEVENTH-DAY-ADVENTIST-CHURCH.htm

http://maps.lonelyplanet.com/1.9/root/maps.php?v=1.9&method=iframe&mapcontrol=true&overview=true&drag=true&paneltabs=10,53,54,55,56&haystackform=true&gscrollable=true&&initmode=qstring&maptype=map&initdata=%2526zoom%253D14%2526layers%253D10%25252C53%25252C54%25252C55%25252C56%2526mixer%253D99999%2526user_source%253DTT%2526hs_date%253D20081019%2526hs_nights%253D1%2526hs_currency%253Dusd%2526hs_type%253Droom%2526hs_guests%253D2%2526hs_bookable%253D1%2526bounds%253D1.3166985128854252%25252C103.83264541625977%25252C1.3523943935175686%25252C103.87178421020508%2526cluster%253D1%2526mapcontrol%253Dtrue%2526overview%253Dtrue%2526drag%253Dtrue%2526paneltabs%253D10%252C53%252C54%252C55%252C56%2526haystackform%253Dtrue%2526gscrollable%253Dtrue

Hope to see you there.

Alternatively, yo can also visit him at.......
Mandai Columbarium,
Block Eugenia
Level 2 row 8
#0532

Do visit him.

Presenting you the SAFSA Meritorious Colors Award!

2008-10-04T18:16:00.001+08:00

Hey Jeremy, just like you to know that we've nominated you for the SAFSA Colors Award, and the Committee decided to upgrade it to the SAFSA Meritorious Colors instead. The award was presented to your brother and mum in attendance at SAFRA Mt Faber on 29 Jul 08. Yup, the brethren of SAFSA still remembers your BIG smile and BIG heart, not forgetting your BIG head of course! =) And as you can see from this photo, the families of you guys have got closer than ever. And frens like us who know you will never forget you, watch over us in RR08. We promise to get you a medal. It is important for you and for us, as it will be exactly 1 year on race day. Give us strength. Don

hi jeremy.

2008-09-26T00:34:00.000+08:00

i still think of you five from time to time, more frequently recently. and though i've joined biathlon and am not in dragon boat anymore, the memories of u guys will always spur me to push in training and in races. it was really a priceless experience the guys (like you) in nteam gave me in those 6months i was in it. dragon boat is one of those sports that one really pushes himself to extremes. thanks for memories, i wouldn't trade them for anything in the world.

Darren

Happy Teacher's Day

2008-09-01T18:21:00.001+08:00

Hi Jeremy, we celebrated Teacher's Day with our idol coach last Sat but we also clearly remember that you once stood-in for our coach and patiently trained us too. Wishing you a very Happy Teacher's Day.

teamHSA

Memories

2008-07-28T12:58:00.002+08:00

This is the first time I am putting an entry here though I have been reading this blog every now & then. Today is special. Last year this day was the day we got to know you, Jeremy. I remember last 28 Jul clearly when you came on behalf of Vin to join us for training as our stand-in coach, and since then you remain as a pal to the team. We looked out for you at races, chatted with you when we bumped into each other at dragon boat events, at SDBA, and strangely at some casual shopping trips and at Ang Mo Kio - a common home town for few of us. We also mentioned about you frequently during our leisure chit chat sessions - all just because your fun loving and easy-going personalities left deep impression on us. We first started liking you as our coach's friend and soon, as our personal friend, though to you, we may possibly just be your acquaintances. Jeremy, just like to let you know that we miss you.

(Photo : Taken on 29 July 07, a day after we know you, Jeremy. That was the day we went to support our captain's constituency dragon boat race held at the Singapore River when we bumped into you and our coach who happened to be there taking part in the race too.)

joyce.teamHSA

You've been missed

2008-07-24T22:25:00.000+08:00

After 8 months, you and the rest are still sorely missed. Happy birthday man.

Ter

2008-07-09T09:39:00.002+08:00

hi dataoxiong

2008-07-07T12:25:00.000+08:00

U must be yaya rite now.

That we have finally won SCF clearcut by 6 seats.
SAFSA finally broken the jinx and gotten a 20 crew medal, althought it a bronze. Will try to get u a gold on RR08.
And u are awarded with SAFSA colours along with the rest.

But dun be too arrogant up there. Will arrange a visit to u guys soon.

And sorry, we are didn't achieve all this when u are around.
Miss u.

SDBF 2008 Came & Went

2008-07-01T14:53:00.000+08:00

SDBF 2008 came and went.
The guys from Mountbatten did extremely well. You would have been proud.
The guys from SIM dedicated the PM cup set to you. Though we could not win it, we gave a good fight nonetheless.
Your words lives with us.
'remove obstacles at all cost'
You can assure that we will try harder next year.
You're still very much missed and remembered.

-regards-

Prayer for my friend ~ 为朋友的祈祷

2008-06-16T00:21:00.001+08:00

Putting my hands together in reverence,
praying that you recieve my blessings in the next world.
Calling upon the holy name of Lord Buddha,

showering immense merits and grace upon your soul.

Life never dies, only the forms pass away but your spirit lives,

Lord Buddha is with you always ~

合掌诚心的祝祷，祈愿您接收到我的祝福,

礼赞佛陀的圣名，愿无量的功德与慈恩照耀您，

生命没有在此划下句点，你的精神常在，
佛陀时时刻刻都一直与您同在 ~

卍
佛说“今此三界，皆是我有，其中众生皆是我子，
而今此处诸多患难，为我一人能为救护
- 妙法莲华经如来寿量品十六 -

Remembering Jeremy Goh Tze Xiong ( 1983-2007 )
Resting safely in the arms of Lord Buddha

Your friend,
Hsiongcai

It just seems like yesterday...

2008-06-13T12:14:00.000+08:00

Dear Jem...
We came by to see you.
It was a quiet afternoon.
Jon didn't tell me where we were going.
When we were at the carpark, den only Jon turned to me and said:
"I only wanted you to see dem, its been a while. I'm sure u miss dem right?"
I only manage a bleak smile as my heart start to feel heavy.

We quietly walked up and start looking for you and the rest.
U were the last dat I went to see coz I thought it'll be easier dat way.
Jon let go of my hand and walked out as he wiped his tears away.

Its not dat I chose to forget you.
Its jus dat I chose to remember you by ur smile and ur funny self,
instead of the whole tragedy.

Till now it hurts.
All I can say is dat it all happened to fast dat it seems just like yesterday.

Wani

From a passerby

2008-06-09T12:02:00.000+08:00

I have been visiting this blog and also Jeremy's friendster from time to time. I know that most of you (Jeremy's friends) are in the early twenties. Perhaps at a rather young and tender age to be experiencing such a tragic loss. The grieving process is a tough one.

My mum passes away ten years ago, after a slew of illnesses, the last one being stomache cancer. I quitted my fulltime job to be the main caregiver, to walk the last phase of her life with her. The dying process of a terminally ill is an extended one, with gradual deterioration. At that time, the concept of the care for the caregivers were not so well publicised. Hence, I was left very much on own to deal with the process. I remember asking myself whether should I pray for an earlier exit for my mum, who was completely bedridden by then, or should I wish for a miracle cure. It was a painful dilemna then.

The concept of grieving was also not that openly discussed then. Being Asians, we are the conservative lot. Life has to go on. Everyone said so. Like many of you who wrote, I had many sleepless nights after her passing, and some nights when the pain was so bad, I too, cried myself to sleep. I was in my early thirties then, but the youngest of all my siblings, and ironically the one who shouldered all the responsibilities of taking care of her. There was guilt (for all my earlier 'non-behaving' days), anger (for the seemingly-nonchalent attitude of my siblings) and most of all the helplessness.

I read the post by Norman on 31 Dec. I can understand the guilt part. Norman, I am not sure it will make you feel better if I say that even with the extended time that I had with my mum, the guilt remains till today. There is a chinese saying, 子欲养而亲不在. Its meaning became crystal clear to me only after her passing.

Sudden loss of young and promising lives is a difficult tragedy to live with. Allow yourselves the time to come out of this. Do not feel the pressure to become 'better'. It came be hard for third parties who have not experienced the loss of their dear ones to fully comprehend it. So, be forgiving for those who may not be as sensitive to you and your family.

It is also about living for the 'living', that means your family. In fact, everyone should learn to treasure their family and loved ones each day. There is never a better time for anyone to pass over, may it be abruptly or in a slow and extended process. We just have to do our utmost today, and for the rest of the days to come. And when the journey comes to an end, we can then choose to hold on to the beautiful memories that we leave behind.

Cheers :-)

2008-05-31T21:25:00.000+08:00

hi jeremy, i went for a camp the past week. just came back last night.

we went to kallang water venture yesterday. the instructor let us choose to do dragonboating or kayaking. we chose dragonboating. u came into my mind immediately. yesterday was the first time i tried dragonboating. it was fun. requires lots of teamwork. i really enjoyed myself. i tried to feel all of you when i got onto the boat. i was really overwhelmed by lots of feelings. the instructor was telling us that if the boat capsized, we should remain calm, etc.. my heart ached then.

was in camp the past week that i wasnt aware of any news. no newspaper no tv to watch news. i got to know of the report this morning. i read the papers, my tears flow again. i didnt know u guys, but i felt the pain. i am writing here because u were my school mate.

u are still being missed.

Wendy

still missing you

2008-05-28T12:05:00.000+08:00

Bro, i'm still missing u, all of u.
when we talk nowadays, we always unknowingly talk abt u guys, only to feel my heart ache moments later...
will be visiting u guys soon.

stanley

2008-05-28T10:31:00.000+08:00

bro,

I miss you quite terribly.
I miss everything about you. We still talk and laugh about your little actions and words you once said, you're always on our mind.

your best right pacer,
alvin

Respect to those Great Parents

2008-05-20T22:44:00.000+08:00

Dear Jeremy,

Here I wrote you a msg again, on the 9th day of the Sze Chuan Earthquake. Beside those lovely angels, I believe you have met many more parents who sacrified their lives for their precious angels & students or even senior parents. Do convey the message to them over there, they will be always remembered by all. Please look after those who are trying hard and their best to get through the hard time over Sze Chuan.

Natalie Liew

take care of the little angels...

2008-05-16T20:39:00.000+08:00

Dear Jeremy,

12th May 2008, the terrible earthquake took many angels from Sze Chuan. I believe you will be heart broken and upset when you see those little angels joining you. So many of them left their parents. Believe there may be many more as time is running out to save survivors .... hope you will cheer them on over there. Pray for those who are still waiting for helping hands.

Natalie Liew

2008-04-19T09:45:00.000+08:00

Hi Jeremy, its me again.

well, i finally can call myself a graduate. the convocation was good. i was so touched after receiving the certificate on stage, that i teared after i came down from the stage. i believe everyone was reminded of u because before the ceremony, there was a video clip that shows some photos.. there was the dragonboat team. at least, i was reminded of you and felt a tinge of sadness for a moment. there were many mugging in the library. those were the times for me. i believe ur friends are some of those in the library. bless them ok? bring them thru the exams.. hang in there.

though i dont know you personally, i so feel sad at times still. for a young and capable school mate has left. u r still being missed by all of us. Take care jeremy.

Wendy

2008-03-29T20:36:00.000+08:00

Hi Jeremy,

Sorry for not visiting this blog for a long time. ive found a job and im gg into the 5th month soon. been very busy with work, newbies have lots of things to learn yeah. facing the computer for so long in the office and when i reach home, i just hate to get near to the comp.

i will be attending the UOL convocation next friday in school. the exams period is here again, i believe the library will be packed when i go back on friday. i can see that this blog is a little quiet recently. dont blame them, i believe everyone still have u in their hearts. they are probably mugging for exams, bless them ok?

i hope you are well. u are still being missed. i believe SIM students still remember you. will visit here whenever i can.

Wendy

Death and Life

2008-02-26T13:26:00.000+08:00

18 Sept 2007
Received a text message at 1921hrs “Hey do you know serene lee, andrew’s wife juz pass away during child birth, so pray 4 andrew k”. Cause of death: unexpected complication at childbirth.

24 Nov 2007
Received a text message at 0725hrs “Singapore dragonboat capsized in Cambodia. Jeremy is missing”. Cause of death: Drowning.
(That day passed like a daze. I received the news in the morning, attended a friend’s wedding in the afternoon and a friend’s baby’s 1-month old birthday celebration in the evening. 3 major events in a person’s life – Birth, Wedding and Death – all in one day!)

27 Nov 2007
Received a text message “Ivan’s dad passed away unexpectedly this morning.” Cause of death: heart attack after jogging.

12 Dec 2007
Received a phone call from Adeline. “Desiree’s mum just passed away. She called her mum this morning and the police answered the call. Mum’s death classified as unnatural death. Neighbors complained about the smell from her house and police had to do a forced entry”. Cause of death: yet-to-be determined.
(Strange thing was I had to go to the mortuary the next day to work on a decomposed body case, and there lying beside the one I was examining was another decomposed body – possibly belonging to my friend’s mother).

4 sudden and unexpected deaths within 4 months …
As a forensic scientist, death should not be surprising or strange. After all, the nature of the work revolves around death and I’ve seen IT in the eye on numerous occasions.

The circumstances surrounding each death may differ, but one thing stands in common –Death comes unexpectedly. It could intrude on a joyous occasion or reared its monstrous head on any ordinary day. How do we (the LIVING) prepare adequately for it?

(Another poem that I’ve written to share with the LIVING ...)

The future.
A foreboding word filled with mystery and uncertainty.
We try so hard to grasp it or at least try to steer it,
But who can guarantee it’s obedience to our thirst to control it.

Some live only for their tomorrow
Ignoring the present. Focused on the future.
A second chance. A new hope.
They eagerly expect and they anxiously wait.

Others live each day as though there’s always the next,
With what confidence they based that upon,
I do not know.
Maybe it’s ignorance. Maybe it’s thoughtlessness.
Either way, it’s foolishness to live like immortals.

Eat, drink and be merry,
For tomorrow we die.
Is that the way to live then? Absolutely not!

Carpe Diem. Seize the day.
We build our tomorrow (or eternity), with our every today.
Relish the moments. Anticipate the future.
God the “I AM” is the same, today, tomorrow and forever.

3 months pass

2008-02-23T11:47:00.000+08:00

We gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience by which we really stop to look fear in the face. Sometimes we are able to say to ourselves " We live through this horror. We can take the next thing that comes along." However, in our hearts, we knew it's never so easy... 23rd of November 2007 might seem to be just another ordinary day for most of us....However, for those who were present at the Tonle Sap river and experienced that tragedy race...they knew it's a day that would change their life...Nevertheless, 3 months have passed....thank God that He has healed the wounds and pains of many...... Let's take this time to remember our 5 dragonboat fighters who lost their lives to the river at Cambodia, don't be sad for them anymore for it's their strength, their courage and their determination that we should remember......Stay strong for them....stay happy for them.....don't be ever so ready to say "I GIVE UP!"....The journey in between what we once were and who we are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place....so live our life to the fullest.

P/S: Jeremy....I still miss your smile....msg you next month :)

龙舟

2008-02-21T20:42:00.000+08:00

Jeremy,

It's been 3 months.

Memories may fade, but everytime I think about what happened in Tonle Sap, I can't help but feel sad.

Everything is fine here. I hope you are taking good care of yourself and your buddies.

Love,

Eric

im still missing you..

2008-02-21T19:53:00.000+08:00

my dear jeremy..when i read your blog again,i cant control my tears..i cried until very jialat.. although its been 3months since you went on,you always had a place to stay in my heart..you may not know me,but you will know me when you look down from heaven..i hope you are in the good hands of jesus.. i miss you..please rest peacefully..you were really precious to me.. i love every singaporeans..of course you and your friends are included..jeremy,boon san,reuben,stephen and wei cheng..you all will be dearly remembered and be loved forever..

Finally We Met

2008-02-10T23:52:00.000+08:00

Hey Jeremy,

We finally met this morning.

Like what I have said, how I wished you were my friend.

No matter. I promise that today being our first meeting, shall not be our last. I will be dropping by as often as I can.

Take care my friend.

FC

Happy New Year Jeremy

2008-02-06T10:12:00.000+08:00

Remembering you on Chinese New Year...

2008-02-05T11:10:00.000+08:00

Hi Jeremy,
Hope all are well and good at your end. Soon it will be Chinese New Year and just wondering what you guys will be doing up there. Went to visit you and the others at your resting place on Jan 1st, and (from the fresh flowers and cards) I am very happy to see many others were there to visit you as well. See you again on 1st day of CNY to be among the earliest to wish you a Happy New Year :-)

To all friends of Jeremy,
If you can, lets celebrate CNY with Jeremy and buddies by visiting them at their resting place during this festive season. This will be their 1st CNY and I am sure they will happy to have many visitors and company.
Thanks.

Cheers,
AT

You must be a good guy

2008-01-30T18:20:00.000+08:00

Athletic games can be exuberant, intensely absorbing, joyful, but at its best, sports is splendid triviality. To say that sports is splendid triviality is to acknowledge its modest place in the scale of significant human concerns. In the end, sports is not about winning, but about the mutual striving for excellence ... it isn't really the winning in sports that ought to serve as a model for life, but the excellence we achieve in doing our best to win. Sports provides an arena in which good character can be developed and practiced ... courage, discipline, fairness.

Hence, an excellent sportsman will also likely be a person of good character.

… I’ve been reflecting on the precious lessons learnt from my team’s dragon boat trainings recently and i realized the need to constantly put off my own personal goals for the sake of the greater team goals + the importance of inspiring each other to excel.

A story came to mind:
This is a very heart warming short story and it would be good if all or us could cultivate....

And they call some of these people "retarded"...

A few years ago, at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for 100-yard dash. At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.

All, that is, except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry. The other eight heard the boy cry.

They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned around and went back......every one of them. One girl with Down's syndrome bent down and kissed him and said, "This will make it better.” Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the finish line. Everyone in the stadium stood, the cheering went on for several minutes.

People who were there are still telling the story. Why? Because deep down we know this one thing: What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.

Conclusion: Jeremy, you are an excellent dragon boater/sportsman. Hence, you must be a good guy. (hee)

Life has never been the same

2008-01-28T18:28:00.000+08:00

It was a short encounter – 2 hours of stand-in coaching on a Saturday in July.
Though the time was brief, you left an impression with your easy personality and sunny smile.

4 chance encounters in Ang Mo Kio mrt station.
First time – you were on your way home from training. We passed each other on the escalator to the interchange and thought each other’s faces looked familiar and turned around to say hi.
Second time – you just bought a watch at a good bargain and was holding your prized possession gleefully in your hands as you showed it to me.
Third time – you were on your way to catch a movie. I was coming out of the gantry and you were going in.
Fourth time – you were on your way home from training and was waiting for the crowd to clear so that you can take the escalator down … It was the sunday before you left for Cambodia. We talked briefly.

It is strange. My old familiar neighbourhood seemed to have gotten smaller after I got to know you. The train ride to and fro work is no longer the same, as it passes your block each time, and remembrance of you flood into the mind.

To all who know you and your pals, here’s a poem that I’ve written to remind us all of what really matters in life.

Return to the simplicity of life

In our cluttered and crowded society today,
Where things have become so complicated and complex,
There’s an urgent need to return to simplicity.
The need to find our meaning and purpose in life again.
The need to stop and think.

In relationships,
Instead of second-guessing the others’ intention.
Or trying to meet often unspoken expectations
We need to learn to love unconditionally
And give unselfishly
It may probably hurt in the process, but life can be so much fuller
If only we are willing to lose in order to gain

In material possessions,
Instead of asking how much we need
and accumulating things we want but don’t need
We need to learn to live with little
And be content with what we already have.
It may probably cost us comfort, but life can be so much richer
If only we are willing to lose in order to gain.

When was the last time we paused from our busy schedule?
From changing hats and changing masks?
To enjoy the wonder of being alive,
The company of family and friends
The sense of smell and taste,
and the glowing warmth of sunshine on our face.

We try to look full on the outside with our beautiful façade
and hectic schedule
But couldn’t hide the emptiness inside,
We are weary in mind, will and emotions,
Yet fail and fear to lose that we might gain.

He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep
To gain what he cannot lose.
The words of Jim Elliot still beckon us today
It echoes through the ages and urges …
Return, O return to the simplicity of life.

2 months pass

2008-01-23T10:56:00.000+08:00

Found this from you tube.....and I realised I still miss you~

龙舟

for the beautiful soul u are, jeremy

2008-01-18T01:47:00.000+08:00

each time i pass the places in sch where u used to be, re traced the steps u used to take,glance at the direction u used to sit in lectures,remembering that familiar simle, that warm laughter, i know i ought to be smiling back at u too.But with a heavy heart,i could only manage a faint one. Had to walk past those photos each time to go to the canteen..when it gets too unbearable, i rather detour. Hope ure happy up there, its coming to 2 mths, yet everyday feels like it was just yesterday. Remembering u just the way u are.

Begining of the End

2008-01-09T01:48:00.000+08:00

The guys from the dragonboat association compiled a series of photos taken during the last 2 days. Togehter with photos from Jeremy's camera. I managed to string together the pictures into the sequence of event right up to the accident.

All these photos tell the story of being a part of the Singapore Dragonboat team. The friendship and brotherhood that was forged through a shared experience of trainings, competitions, Victories and defeats.

I hope these photos can help everyone to remember Jeremy and the other 4 brothers.

The journey began with an MRT ride, followed by a plane ride........ ending with a boat ride.

The Beautiful Life That God Gave Us

2008-01-07T12:11:00.000+08:00

The Life that god gave u,

Was to enjoy the beauty of the world,

That allows us to close our eye,

There are hearts that are willing to give,

And eyes that weep,

But they want to live till 100,

Whatever we brought here,

And whatever we bring,

Will makesure that we live life to it's,

Fullest,The Life that god gace u,

Was to enjoy the beauty of the world,

That allows us to close our eye,

Earth, O mighty eart,

I have always been happy Life,

O Life I have no deformities,

Whatever life commands,

Live by it,

When the time comes to depart,

Do it with a smile.
Happiness, O the excitment,

It's where my heart adn soul,

Lingers forever,

The Life that god gace u,

Was to enjoy the beauty of the world,

That allows us to close our eye,

As you enjoy the moon,

You realise that there is no 1 wind,

The times, O the timesLying in wait,

Our Joys will return,

And when they do,

More will return too.

Weather is continues or ends,

The lessons learnt in this life will,

be what i always think about.

The Life that god gace u,

Was to enjoy the beauty of the world,

That allows us to close our eye.

2008

2008-01-01T02:45:00.000+08:00

hey Jer, finally 2008 has arrived..pls grant ur family members the strength they need to move ahead in this new year, to remember u yet not grieve like they still do now. Esp ur mom, let her tears be that of joy to know the kind of life u had led albeit a short one, what impact u had left upon people that have ever crossed paths with u. All the beautiful testimonials by ur loved ones,ur friends and even strangers reflect the beautiful person u had been inside and out,and how much they missed u. Norman, pls take care in this new year..Jer will always be living in all of ur hearts, his presence never leaving the people that he so loved and cherish, and even more for those who loved and still love him. He'll always be ur baby brother and i'm sure given the next lifetime, he would still want to be ur brother again. Finally Jer, thank you for the joy u've brought to us, tho u may not know the number of tears shed by those who know they'll nv see ur smile again,hear ur voice again,feel u near again, but im sure memories of u will continue to live with us for the many new years to come. Rest well my dear friend.

jo

My dear friend Happy New Year 2008

2008-01-01T00:05:00.000+08:00

hey , Jeremy, Reuben, Boon San, Stephen and Wee Cheng. happy new year 2008

2007-12-31T23:51:00.000+08:00

Dear Jeremy,
Finally saw u, Reuben, Stephen, Boon San and Wei Cheng at ur final resting place today, glad tht it is a nice environment, bright, windy with greenery beside. I got blue roses for u guys, hope u all will like it. Saw the 5 of u together, hv a rather mixed feeling....all of u so young, so many things to complete but you guys was not given enough time... however now rather to believe tht maybe bcos u guys are too good tht you guys are being spared to face the cruelty of life, tht you all can finally rest peacefully. All of us have to leave this world sooner or later, though ur stay in this world is short, u should be proud tht u had lived ur life so well tht now are greatly missed and remembered by ur loved ones and even some strangers. A new year is coming soon, hope tht Yr 2008 will be a good year for everyone, a new beginning of good things to come. U guys will still be greatly missed, a Happy New Year to u all, Jeremy, Reuben, Boon San , Stephen and Wei Cheng.
Let tomorrow be a good new start for everybody.

Brothers Forever

2007-12-31T23:25:00.000+08:00

They say, ‘time and tide wait for no man’. How true this is. Today is New Year’s Eve already. The end of one and the beginning of another. It hurts to realize that this New Year will begin without you.
I caught ma sobbing quietly in your room just now. She misses you a lot. She is as heart broken as every mother can be when faced with the death of a child. I did not disturb her because I know she was basking in the memories that she has of you and the moments that you both shared.

I had imagined her recalling the day when she gave birth to you……recalling your first steps……your first words…..your first day in school and all the little things that you had done for her. The pain in the room was overwhelming. I don’t know what to do or say to her. I reckon she has to come to terms with your departure on her own. Only then can she find peace with this harsh reality. I left her to grief alone in your room.

Jacky Wu’s show was on the other night. I remembered you will be the one shouting across the room that the show was on and hurrying me to join you. I guess we are both suckers to Jacky’s idiotic jokes because we always succumb to his idiosyncrasies, ever ready to burst into laughter at his slightest jokes. It was pure entertainment watching Jacky Wu variety show with you and I would miss those special moments.

There is a particular thing that was bothering me for sometime. I remembered that day when you were leaving, you called me from the airport asking me whether I wanted any cologne from DFS. I had hastily blurted out a few trying to get off the line and back to work. Little did I realize that would be the last time I will ever hear your voice again…..I remembered vividly how the conversation had gone.

(Xiang): Harlow……eh Ghor, I am at the airport, you wan to buy any perfume from DFS anot?

(Me): Erm…..…ok! You help me buy XXX and XXX……you got enough money a not??

(Xiang): Got.

(Me): ok.

(Xiang): Eh izzit better to buy on the way back?

(Me): Err...…..dun noe leh….I think so lah! (impatient)

(Xiang): Ok lor, I’ll call you again when I am back.

(Me): Ok Bye!

(Xiang): Bye!

That was it. That was the last conversation. It was brief…..too brief.

I feel sorry I din even take a minute off to ask you to be careful and to take care…..I was myopic …..I can’t see beyond myself sometimes. It had dawn on me that I was too engrossed in my own world to appreciate the people around me - the people dearest to a person. Most of the time I had taken you for granted. I was not aware of what was going on in your life. How you were doing in school? Are you dating anyone? What are your plans when you graduate? I wished I had made an effort to get to know you...…Its too late, I had squandered the time away...…can never make up for it again. Somehow my shoulders feel heavy with the burden of regret.

I guess we have to pick ourselves up from here. Tomorrow is a new start for us – a new year. We will try to live life as you had mastered so meaningfully. We will treasure the memories of you and the people/things you left behind. You don’t have to worry about pa and ma because I’ll be around to take care of things. We want you to rest. Save a good spot for us in heaven. We will join you soon. Till we meet again… its goodbye for now.

Take care my brother.

Brothers Forever

Happy New Year 2008

2007-12-31T20:29:00.001+08:00

happy new year 2008, my dear friend, Jeremy, Reuben, Boon San, Stephen and Wee Cheng.

Happy New Year 2008

2007-12-31T20:29:00.000+08:00

happy new year 2008, my dear friend

Thank You Jeremy.

2007-12-30T10:26:00.000+08:00

Dear Jeremy,

It has been 1month 7days since your departure from all your friends and loved ones, but each and everyone of them still misses you as much, if not even more.How time flies...though its been 2years since we last met up or even contacted each other, I will never forget the fun times we had. Back to those poly days, how you, your friends and I mugged for our final year exams at a void deck near Bishan area, having study breaks in between, dropping by convenient shop to buy drinks or chocolates..and yes I remember you telling me that you love chocolate and could eat it everyday.

On top of that, how could I forget the Halloween Party which we attended, with you dressing up as a Pirate and bragging to me that the 'Parang' was DIY by yourself. It has never occurred to me then, that your passion for the Sea has given you the idea of dressing up as that, but now I do...despite dressing up, I remember teasing you that you don't have to go through all the trouble, because with your BIG HEAD, you've already fitted very well into the Halloween theme, and you retaliate saying that I can go without make up and pass off as a ' Xiong Mao Jing'(Panda-Jinx).

There are so many funny things that you did and said, till date I can never forget, like mimicking me, in an irritating high-pitched tone when lam calling out for Joyce..., and theres also this particular conversation which we shared..if given a choice would I pick a Diamond or a Dog? My answer was Diamond of course! and it irritates you so much because no matter how cute or good you describe the dog to be, I'll stick to my answer very firmly,and your reaction was truely amusing.

Having known him since poly days, albeit his tanned,manly sunshine outlook,and putting aside all the lame crappy jokes he cracked, theres a very gentle side of Jeremy too..on one particular rainy day, while we were walking, this silly guy went around removing snails from the pathway, asking why he did that..his reply was to prevent anyone from stepping on the snails...such a thoughtful person.. instantly I felt ashamed ,and told him that when I was young and ignorant, I used to put salt on snails to see how it dissolves into a puddle of water.He stared at me in disbelief..and term me as an evil snail killer.Well..Jeremy, I'll promise to stop anyone from doing that evil deed too. There is also this childhood story he finds amusing, which I can only recall vividly, about how his dad took him and his elder sis and bro to a pet shop,where everyone gets to choose a pet, and despite being the youngest in the family, he picked the biggest rabbit, in the end the pet was too much for them to take care, and had to be returned to the pet shop..

Jeremy...losing you without even having the chance to say goodbye, leaves me feeling remorseful.Nonetheless .. You have been such a loyal and great friend...I am sorry that my message of appreciation came a little too late.I have always enjoy your companionship and I hope you did too...

Chun

2007-12-28T12:57:00.000+08:00

Hi Sunny Jeremy,

Read the news that yesterday you are finally resting at Mandai, you, Reuben, Boon San, Stephen and Wee Cheng truly reunited and will be accompany each other throughout. This period must be a very tough period for your family especially your mum but glad to know that she is accepting the facts, coping well and will be moving on bravely. You must be giving strength and blessing your family and those you loved.

Frankly speaking, unfortunately that I only know you through this incident but maybe this period I had read alot of your news, your friendster and this blogspot that to me, you seems to be a friend I already known....You are like a friend from other “country” that I have not met and only contact through here. This is the first time that I constantly writing to someone who I do not know in person or have not met, it is strange to me and maybe strange to others too. Just feel that it is such pity and regret that such promising young dude got to go in this way. Anyway to me, you are like a brother, a friend that I will remember. A new beginning year is coming, everyone got to move on and look forward to a new start, a brighter and happier life but you will always remembered by those who missed and loved you.

Hey Sunshine Boy, Merry Christmas

2007-12-25T00:15:00.000+08:00

Dear Jeremy, Wishing you, Reuben, Boon San, Stephen and Wee Cheng Merry Christmas. 5 of you will live in our hearts, always.

Abby

Merry Christmas to my dear friend

2007-12-25T00:12:00.000+08:00

Merry Christmas ,Jeremy, Reuben, Boon San, Stephen and Wee Cheng.

Merry Christmas my Dear Friend

2007-12-24T21:34:00.000+08:00

Hey .Jeremy, Reuben, Boon San, Stephen and Wee Cheng. Wish u guys merry Christmas. Miss u guy so much. pls take care ok

2007-12-24T01:10:00.000+08:00

hello jeremy,
like wendy, everytime i came to this blog id cry, thou id barely talked to you for only once.
but today ive decided its time to leave a msg to say that at least ive had a chance to know you, however short the period that may be.
it's christmas in a day
im sure that even thou many of your friends will be missing your company; you'll never be missing in their hearts

so happy christmas people,
enjoy it like how our friend would have.

2007-12-23T23:20:00.000+08:00

yes, its been a month..

jeremy, ive said before i will not cry again reading your blog.. i will one day feel comforted that you are still missed by those who love you. though i am still saddened by your departure, i no longer tear when i read this blog.

just want you to know that you are still being missed.

wendy

1 Month.....Life Just Isn't

2007-12-23T09:41:00.001+08:00

Dear Jeremy....

You have passed away for 1 month and all of us here still miss you terribly. When the accident happened one month ago at Cambodia, I guess everyone tried really really hard to endure the pain......I know you do not want anyone to be sad because of your departure but it's pretty tough Jeremy, especially for your family members and friends.....How can they not miss you, how can they not remember your smile and how much love, fun and laughter you have brought to their lives. For your dragonboat buddies, how can they ever forget your passion for dragonboating and the fighting spirit of yours to remove all obstacles at all cost........However, I must admit that your departure made me realise what's important in life is how we treat each other.......Life isn't about keeping score. In fact, it's not about grades, money, clothes or people who have accepted you or not. But life is about who you love and who you hurt, it's about how you feel about yourself. It's about trust, happiness and compassion. It's about sticking up for your friends and replacing inner hate with love. Life is about avoiding jelousy, overcoming ignorance and building confidence. It's about what you say and what you mean. It's about seeing people for who they are and not what they have. Jeremy, you had lived your life well, because you have done most of what I mentioned above and most of all, you have chosen to use your life to touch many and made an impact in a way that could never been achieved otherwise. Thanks for everything Jeremy, in years to come we will still remember you but never for the sadness due to your death instead for the joy and laughter you have once given to us in the past..... Rest in peace :)

(",)

龙舟

Merry Christmas

2007-12-18T21:54:00.002+08:00

Today I walked through Orchard Road, and as I stood by a traffic light, I looked up and admired the beautiful decorations hanging from the sky. They were like little twinkling stars......and I thought of you Jeremy. I thought about how lovely it would have been to have you standing next to me, admiring the lights together.

I closed my eyes, and for the briefest of moments, I felt you beside me.

I miss you. And I can't stop thinking of you.

Merry Christmas dear.....

Today, We won for you...

2007-12-16T23:13:00.000+08:00

Today, 16/12/07, is the day we dedicated a race just for you, ah poh, and brother loh. You guys were supposed to be competing with us, like the usual Master Series. Although it cannot be fulfilled, and you guys cannot be with us physically, each and every one of us had you guys in our hearts. Whenever there is a race set that you guys are not racing, you guys would tell us "all the best guys, row hard, cos I want to row for the finals later!" This time round, we rowed hard. The hardest ever. Reason being very simple. We want you guys to know that it's sheer determination and emotions that brought us the gold medal today. And it all happened because of you, ah poh, and brother loh. For brothers....for team-mates.

Now, we can bring the medals and pay our respects to you guys...for we did not let you all down. We fought hard in this race even though we have already won the series. It is a race dedicated to our late brothers.

Brothers forever...

Boon

2007-12-15T17:24:00.000+08:00

Hi Jeremy,

Mountbatten CSC Dragon Boat Team will hold a simple memorial service event tomorrow ,16 Dec to commemorate you, Reuben, Boon San, Stephen and Wee Cheng in conjunction with the 5th SDBA Master Series at the Bedok Reservoir, I guess you will be up there together with the other 4 guys looking and participating in this one passion in your life tomorow right ?

You are still greatly missed by your loved ones and those who remember you...

2007-12-14T14:50:00.000+08:00

We will miss you this x'mas and we will miss you for a long long time. Loving you... and your brilliant smile!

Someone

2007-12-13T10:07:00.000+08:00

Hey Handsome (i've called u tht b4, haven't I? feels nostalgic to say it now..) It's been 3 weeks or more since you left us... i din get a chance to come say goodbye cuz i had to travel for work the very week your wake was held and i cldn't change the plans though i wanted to.. and that feeling sucked cuz u were all i was thinking about as i boarded the plane and while on it as well...

Dude your leaving us has taught me to treasure all my loved ones and never ever to take anything for granted like how i took for granted we would all catch up and see each other again some day... Been more than 3 yrs since we graduated from poly but it feels like yesterday when i think back on our stupid jokes and pranks and laughter and the fun we had when we all got together.. last sem of poly was great becuz of my FUNtastic classmates and you were a huge part of our fun and laughter.. I won't be able to relive those memories but i will keep them fondly in my heart.. and some day when i have children i will tell them about my handsome, cheerful ever smiling fren whom we lost so tragically but who left doing the nation proud...

Jeremy i hope where eva u r, u are looking over your family and us... i read that it was your mum's birthday recently... am sure it was painful for her to celebrate it w/o u but i am glad your frens r helping her along this journey of mourning and accepting and moving on.. great frens u have by the way; speaks a lot abt the kinda man you are... I hope your father, brother and sister have the support they need to get thru this tough period as well...

I am glad that in your short lifetime i had the oppurtunity to get to know you, study, laugh and have fun wif you... I am honoured to have been your fren and your attitude towards life is something that i will stive to upkeep in my own life in memory of you...

Take care dear fren, be happy and keep smiling for your smile is a trademark you will be remembered for... forever...

with love and fond memories,
laura

Rebeginning

2007-12-12T10:56:00.000+08:00

Hi Jeremy, it was my birthday yesterday, i just turned 23. I used to take the same bus with you to school, but i drop at NUS, and i only noticed you when you weren't there anymore, only when you had become that guy who used to be on my bus, and i guess life is just like that. But I was really affected by what happened 2 weeks ago; and after Mandai, my priorities changed in life. I guess it was just kinda appropriate that u appeared in my dream last night so i could thank you for it, before life just moved on.

Anyway, to everyone who cares here i just wanted to share that i honestly think that Jeremy is in a good place, no matter what our different religious interpretations of the afterlife are; and what follows is just an account of my own reflections, because i'm honestly not trying to impose any presumptions on how our dear friend is doing.

I was catching the last train at Ang Mo Kio the night of attending the wake, and i was alone on the platform when the strange maintenance train howled past my stop - which got me very unsettled by the idea of Jeremy having to confront new unknowns. That began an agonising week of anger and loss as i struggled to come to terms with the indignity and impunity of death.

All week I was searching for answers from God, and that weekend (by the way i go to the church behind his place) i couldn't receive a more obvious message; the prompting was simple and clear (but by no means presumptious of anyone's convictions here) -because God didn't tell me where Jeremy was or how he was doing, if there was English heaven or Chinese heaven, he just told me this: that no matter what, God loved Jeremy more. And this message was stronger than anything i asked for all my life because i could finally cry about what i was feeling, which also happened on the spot and freaked everyone out.

I had been confused all week by how we needed to place Jeremy in a better place but we could never be sure about what religion informed us about the afterlife; but all i suppose i needed to know was just that someone the other side knew about it. And i don't doubt the reality of different systems in the afterlife, and i definitely am not suggesting i know anything about what's really happening, i just know that i asked for an answer from the other side and i got something, and it was in full understanding of what happened 2 weeks ago and how much that angered all of us.

Well I think i'll leave the more unexplainable aspects of my dream out, but when i saw Jeremy we were with his friends and he was just more Jeremy than in real life, you know what i mean? It was like he was really Jeremy - forever, not a mortal person whose aspects changed with time. We were actually at his memorial, only that he was there to host it, and he put his arm around me and he asked me how i was. And there were other memorial services (or can i call them gatherings) for other people (including the 4 other dragonboaters) on that deck, and Jeremy's was on this huge open air roof with a view of the sunset. And we were just hanging out, like no one was miserable or anything.

I mean, i guess it kinda makes sense, too much sense in fact, so i'll venture to say that having it on the night of my birthday (which i had only been looking forward to so i could put the events of November behind me for good) makes for too much of a coincidence and so i can't say i really believe i had a Jeremy visit; but i'm grateful i had this dream rather than any other, and one which really made enough sense for me to finally say - not goodbye Jeremy, but 'ei, hallo, how are you?' and basically just, 'ei, Jeremy!"

Alright, i also wanted to say thanks to everyone who has been maintaining this site, and his friendster, i mean i got upset that it got changed at first, but i think that Norman did the right thing by keeping the site relevant for all of us, instead of being a marker of that time and day that Jeremy was taken away. Its December liao, and i think its right to say that Jeremy lives on in us if the events of November changed some ways in how we are living right now.

'Remove obstacles at all cost'

"NEVER SAY DIE!!!"

Nick, Ave 6.

2007-12-12T10:16:00.000+08:00

a song for you . me. everyone

-----------------------------------------

Diana Ross - If We Hold On Together Lyrics print version

Don't lose your way

With each passing day

You've come so far

Don't throw it away

Live believing

Dreams are for weaving

Wonders are waiting to start

Live your story

Faith, hope & glory

Hold to the truth in your heart

If we hold on together

I know our dreams will never die

Dreams see us through to forever

Where clouds roll by

For you and I

Souls in the wind

Must learn how to bend

Seek out a star

Hold on to the end

Valley, mountain

There is a fountain

Washes our tears all away

Words are swaying

Someone is praying

Please let us come home to stay

If we hold on together

I know our dreams will never die

Dreams see us through to forever

Where clouds roll by

For you and I

When we are out there in the dark

We'll dream about the sun

In the dark we'll feel the light

Warm our hearts, everyone

If we hold on together

I know our dreams will never die

Dreams see us through to forever

As high as souls can fly

The clouds roll by

For you and I

2007-12-11T18:44:00.000+08:00

Hi Xiang,
Today is yr mum's birthday, she must be dying to hear yr warm wishes. Pls blessed her & let her know that u are fine in another world.
We had an early celebration for her on Sunday & had left a pc of birthday cake for u. Guessed u must have eaten it....Take care, all of us missed u & love u dearly.
Fr:XE

Hero

2007-12-11T01:44:00.000+08:00

Hey Jeremy and ppl,

I posted the song hero for everone here. Don't know why I cant post here so i posted it under one of the elements (see left). Anyway i thought this song will spur us on, it is as though Jeremy and the other four heros will want their families and good friends to be. I hope everyone is doing well here. And of course our 5 heros..

2007-12-09T23:25:00.000+08:00

When The Rain Is Pouring Down
And My Heart Is Hurting
You Will Always Be Around
This I Know For Certain.

Jeremy, Rest in peace.
Everyone misses you, and you're still etched in our memories.

2007-12-09T05:08:00.000+08:00

Jeremy,

Miss u

T_T

2007-12-08T20:31:00.001+08:00

jeremy, i didnt know you when you were in SIM. but the depart of you feels so close to my heart. i dont know why too. maybe ive seen you around in school before. maybe i was attracted to your smile and motto in life. i cried so hard when i first heard the news about you, reuben, stephen, weicheng and boon san. 5 promising young people. i followed the news so closely then.

its been 2weeks.. i kept myself occupied with work. but i still cried whenever i read this blog.. i felt ive lost 5 friends although i didnt know you guys.

i will be strong. there will come one day when i wont cry anymore but feel comforted when i read this blog. to know that you are being missed by so many people...

wendy

They can NEVER have yesterday...

2007-12-07T03:04:00.000+08:00

For you jeremy! And all who love & miss him so dearly... A song by Leona Lewis titled Yesterday.

I just can't believe you're gone, still waitin for mornin to come, when I see if the sun will rise, in the way that you're by my side, where we had so much in store, tell me what is it all reaching for, when we're through building memories I'll hold yesterday in my heart, in my heart.

[Chorus]
They can take tomorrow and the plans we made, they can take the music that we'll never play, all the broken dreams, take everything, just take it away, but they can never have yesterday, they can take the future that we'll never know, they can take the places that we said we will go, all the broken dreams, take everything, just take it away, but they can never have yesterday.

You always choose to stay, I should be thankful for everyday, heaven knows what the future holds, or least where the story goes, I never believed until now, I know I'll see you again I'm sure. NO, its not selfish to ask for more, one more night, one more day, one more smile on your face but they can't take yesterday.

[Chorus]

I thought our days would last forever, but it wasn't our destiny, coz in my mind we had so much time, but I was so wrong, no I can believe me I can still find the strengh in the moments we made, I'm lookin back on yesterday

[Repeat chorus]

Phoebe

Jun Wen & Jun Hao

2007-12-06T01:27:00.000+08:00

Greetings to everyone here! :o)

Jeremy became my friend only upon his demise. Though I am a friend not known to him when
he breathed, I was truly saddened over his sudden departure. I followed the news, read the
papers and this blog. Indeed, tears uncontrollably rolled down my cheeks.

Yesterday, I've finally accepted the fact that Jeremy, Reuben, Wei Cheng, Stephen and Boon
San had indeed left us physically. My life has now resumed normal and I'm hoping to continue
their legacies. :)

Jeremy, you've taught me not to give up, bring joy to people around me and be a
filial child. I'll try my best to do these and make myself a better person, so as to
serve the others better:)
A million thanks to you:)

To the family members and friends of Jeremy, let's live happily and continue the
legacy he left us with - for death is only the end of a life; not a relationship. Feel
his presence and whenever you think of him, think of his smile. This is what I've been doing these two days and I feel touched and it gives me some consolation to move on. Don't worry about Zi Xiang, for he's with the other 4 good friends and, in the arms of the angel, smiling at us:)

Cheers to Jeremy:)
you'll be missed and you're loved!

Red and white for you died sailing the nation's flag,
Your friend for almost two weeks, Yan Yu

2007-12-05T18:33:00.000+08:00

Rest in peace Jeremy..
I don't know whether I know u or not, but this tragedy feels so close to my heart - as a dragonboater myself and also used to be from SIM db as well - it feels so close. My heart is all out for you, for all dragonboaters and also for dragonboat. Dragonboat is not a dangerous sport so to speak of, but yet accidents like tt happen. Life is so fragile - you can be the fittest person on earth, but yet when things like tt happen, nothing can be done to - I scroll down n see pics of you and your team, I seen familiar faces, people I know .... It feels so so close... I send my condolences to your family as well as to all who know you personally. -RIP-

Regards,
Kaixin

Continue to smile and shine in the other part of the world, Jeremy

2007-12-05T00:33:00.000+08:00

Jeremy, I believe you are now in the other world where there is peace and happiness and continue your passion -rowing. Continue to smile and shine in the other part of the world, your cheerfulness, your charm and your sunshine will always be remembered.

To the family of Jeremy : Uncle Goh & Aunty, Norman and Alicia
Be proud for you have such an outstanding son/brother who had lead his life so well that touches the heart of so many people. His sincerity towards friends, his filial towards family, his humorous and determined character, his sunshine, cheerful smile will always be remembered by all, even by some strangers.

Please take good care of your health and lead a happy life soon cos Jeremy who had always bring laughter to his love ones would definitely want to see your smile again. Lead life happily for him cos this is what he want to see. Though physically he can’t be with you all but I believe spiritually he is always by your side.

Though it is easier to say than done but time will ease all pain. The memories of Jeremy will not be forgotten and he will forever live in the heart of those who loved him.

To all the friends of Jeremy:
Losing such an incredible good friend who had always being the centre of attention because of his joker character, his sincerity is real tough. It is tough for stranger like me let alone you guys who had spent years with him. Keep him in your heart and live life strong cos I believe this is how he lead his life when he is around.

JEREMY!!

2007-12-04T19:55:00.000+08:00

i had to admit after reading all those posts,my tears cant control it anymore,sad to see that ur loved ones still missing u...Jeremy,thank for letting me know that each of us to not know wad will happen to us or even our loved tmr or in the future..

those ur life is short,our path had never came across before,im sure u'r a great guy

to all ur loved one out there!!!do take care and be strong,as i believe that jeremy and his 4 other bro up there perhap surround with angels will wan u guy to remind postive in ur life n don ever give up jus like wad jeremy alway u guy to be!!!

jiayou,im sure u guy can do it!!!

2007-12-04T19:36:00.000+08:00

Rest In Peace,Jeremy

ur smile, deeply engraved on my heart..

2007-12-04T15:31:00.000+08:00

for ppl who needs help or some relieve chatting at [loozhengyuan_123@hotmail.com]...

Glad to have known you...

2007-12-03T22:21:00.000+08:00

Zixiang,

"Cherish the ones dearest to you before its too late".. I admit I knew this but I failed to apply, now I am missing you already...

You have been always so cheeky since primary school days and never fail to make people laugh. We were the 5 heavenly kings in class and you were the big brother. You would like to show your flexibility by bending hands and legs, always entertaining everyone around you.

Around 2 years ago was my last time meeting you, at a CNY invitation dinner. You were no longer the playful guy in the past, but someone so gentlemanly. I remembered although at the table were all guys, you still stood up and volunteered to distribute the food to the rest. Being strangers at the table, you even tried to create conversations so as to make everyone feel at ease.

You have always put others before self, taking care of people around you.

Thank you for being my friend, and I am glad that I knew you.

Remebering you...

2007-12-03T21:02:00.000+08:00

I have been visiting your blog everyday, read every messages, touched and moved. Wanna to tell you that I same will remember your smile and what a great fren you have been to all around you. Just cant help feeling sad that you had left us.

Rest in peace.

Natalie Liew

2007-12-03T19:58:00.001+08:00

I am just a passer-by to this blog.
What I want to say is: Be strong.
Yes.Even though its hard for all of us to accept this fact that he had left us,
we must be strong.
And carry on with our lives.
He would not want to see us living on this Earth,mourning as each day passes by.
I know it's diffcult,it's something hard to forget about.
But, we got to be firm and stand on the ground.
Knowing that no matter what happene,God has a plan for it.
He has a purpose for it.
Life is about going through up and downs.
The situation would not change, if your mindset does not change.
Smile guys, I guess this is what he hoped for us.
If there is anything at all, that you're want somebody to talk to.
And if you're shy to tell to someone u know,
maybe u can tell me online yes?

with.lve@hotmail.com

Read this,you will feel better:http://www.joycemeyer.org/OurMinistries/EverydayAnswers/Articles/art27.htm
Guys,jia you!

Still in my thoughts...

2007-12-03T19:14:00.000+08:00

Jeremy, though our path never cross, I have read and seen much about you from the papers and on the web. Though you are no longer among our midst, there are many out here who still miss you dearly...

It has been more than a week now but somehow your images still flashes in my mind... I am glad that I attended the Memorial Service to send you off (though I had never done this for a stranger before) and like many others, I cried.

For those who miss you, I guess the consolation for us is we know you have four other good buddies who are now with you - four who are just as inspired & committed as you. Four who share the same passion to row and will contnue to row with you in heaven...

Not sure when will I be able to move off with my life but one thing for sure is I hope I will be fortunate enough to be your friend in my next life... Meanwhile, I will continue to visit this website and your Friendster website whenever I think of you...

Rest in peace, Jeremy.

Missing you always,
AT

Jeremy, my countrymate

2007-12-03T18:54:00.000+08:00

I, may not know you, but I am here to pay respects to you. May you rest in peace.

Rest In Peace,
Loo Zheng Yuan, Your Countrymate

Fondly Remembered

2007-12-02T23:41:00.000+08:00

dearest Jeremy ,

It’s almost a week since you are gone. It’s been hard for all, from accepting the fact that you will never be back to going through the pain to see you leave into the furnace. How I wish that I need not go through this to say good bye to you.

I know it would be impossible for you to come home. But all of us will remember the good times.

I miss every part you. Because of your smile and of all that you are, it makes you a beautiful soul, always.

Fondly Remembered by,
Jocelyn
SIM DB

to our very dear jeremy

2007-12-01T22:26:00.000+08:00

you will be kept in our hearts,locked well..never going to leave..everytime i saw the comments of love,care,empathy..i cried..my tears rolled down my saddened cheek quickly..love was offered for you.especially to you..you were the angel of our nightmare..i saw your smile..melting my heart..although we do not know each other,but i want to wish you a very farewell..you had a heart of gold..full with love ..you always cheered people up..despite you had problems..i really miss you..jeremy..i can do anything for you..but please do me a favour..rest in peace.. the rain came down,and the dark clouds covered my heart..using your shining love and care,you drove away the bad memories,making my heart got more shiny..your little eyes..your cute nose..your funny eyebrowns..your sweetening lips..everything of you makes me wana cry more..i hope you will maintain your good attitude in heaven..enjoying days over there with stephen,reuben,boon san and wei cheng..wish you 5 a very final farewell.goodbye..rest in peace ok?

come back soon?

2007-12-01T20:46:00.000+08:00

These few days had been hard to endure.

That night i got e news was on sat thru sms..
no access to e internet, no call coverage n no contacts with e outside world.
I was praying that u drifted to some shore in e vicinity like depicted in movies
or that e messages were conveyed wrongly.
I was on a trip with odac to jerangkang.

Sun morning, when we came outta e woods,
e first thing i did was call.
Even then, they havent confirmed e details...
but i couldn't help but break down n cry.

12am that very night i reached home,
e news was confirmed but somehow it didnt seem to register.
though i was back,
i refused to read up either e articles online,
e newspaper coverage,
or THIS site.

Couldnt sleep e whole night,
instead slept thru e whole morning lect.

Abt 1.30pm on mon during MA break,
went down to scs with gav, agnes, johnson, ade.
It was then when i saw e condolences booth,
e newspapers, and e standing board with 'Jeremy Goh Tze Xiong'.
I couldnt help but burst into tears..........
e truth finally sunk in and u're never coming back.

Its been e longest week in all my 21yrs of life.

To cheer everyone up,
I'd tell them..
"C'mon! dont crying.. can u imagine Jerbroni looking down
with his told-you-i-knew-it grin,
and say:' I knew u love me :)' ? "
But deep inside i cant help but hope its all a dream.

Most of the photos have been put up by jac,
but i cant help but post it up again...
e classics that can never ever be replaced.

Done by jer few months ago..

his last birthday celebration...

it wouldnt be if he comes back again?

MY upbringing never taught me to be expressive of my feelings...

but now, it haunts me that i might never ever be given a chance to.

its now or never.

I hope all of us would learn to show that we care and pass on the jerbroni spirit

-bring smiles to more lives and help make a difference.

Love ya.

geline86.blogspot.com

2007-12-01T16:35:00.000+08:00

Jeremy,

My last photo of u, Jeremy. doing wat u do best and wat u enjoyed most..

i will nv forget how we captained the NYP team together. supporting each other thru all the hard times, and holding the team together. it was hard but yeah, we did it.

i once asked u, why take up a business degree when u study engineering in poly. Part of ur answer was, u want to continue rowing. cuz u are afraid that if u start working, u won't have the time to row. jokingly u also said, so that u can continue sucking money from ur mum. haha..

never wud i tot that this is e one thing that will take u away from us all.

anyways, it has been an honor to have rowed, won and thrown in the air with u. but above all, it was an honor to have u as a good friend.

thank u for all the great memories Jerm..
U'll be missed by myself and wani.

cheers,
Kang Jonathan

In Loving memory

2007-12-01T14:00:00.000+08:00

‘We weep for that which has been our delight’

That’s why we cried so hard and so long for u. Memories that u left for each one of us is different . I believe these memories are meant to give us strength to help us tide through trying times, like now. Each thought of u brought less tears and more smiles. These memories will only be a place of comfort, in time to come.
We will seal these memories up and keep it well, I promise.

‘We still talk and laugh of you, like you were just beside us.’
‘You wont be out of mind just because you are out of sight’

I cannot blame or hate God, but only thank him for letting our paths meet.
Ur sincerity towards friends was never overlooked. I am blessed to have felt it and received it.
The joy you brought to us will always be felt and remembered. How you touched the lives of friends and even strangers cannot be denied. Be in peace my dear friend. We will meet again, I’m sure.

God has you in his keeping, We have u in our hearts, Forever.

Im sure u hear us all. Im sure you can feel the love we all have for you.

Greatest condolences to your family, which you loved so much.

Always,
‘en

You have the wildest imaginations, hilarious actions and big laughter which simply brighten up our days.
‘Your charms gladden us,
And though your stay was brief.
We have your lovely memories,
As solace for our grief.’
Your sincerity towards your closest friends and the people around you is something really hard to come by and I am really blessed to be one of them.
I’ll treasure everything that you have left behind not forgetting the wonderful memories and the friendship that we shared. Thank you so much Jeremy... for everything that you’ve done.

I believe you will be able to hear us as you are watching over us from high above. You’ll be greatly missed and you will never be forgotten...this I know for sure as you’ll live forever in our hearts.

Till we meet again…. rest in peace.
‘Even with our heavy heart,
We know that we've been blessed
To have been those whose lives you’ve touched
With warmth so infinite.’